The majority of my friends have gotten married and have started families. With the exception of a few of them, most have given their children very normal and appealing names. However, my best friend from high school spent the nine months of her pregnancy scouring books to find unique baby names. She was determined that her child would not have a name that anyone else would have. At first, I thought that was creative and wonderful, but soon she started naming some unique baby names that would make your head spin. I won’t name any of them, but I believe that some of them were just letters that she took from the alphabet and threw them together.
Finally, in her quest for unique baby names, she did manage to choose a name that was unique but not too farfetched. She altered the spelling of it a tad and was more than happy with what she’d invented. I think her husband was just relieved that she finally settled on one particular name. What is really ironic is that everyone, including my best friend, ended up giving their daughter a nickname anyway. Go figure.
As a psychiatric assistant, I get to meet some very interesting individuals. I get to meet people who didn’t have to look very far to find unique baby names. One of my patients was a sweet little boy name Lemonjello. He pronounced it quite uniquely but when I questioned his mother on the spelling of his name and why she choose it, she simply said that when she was pregnant, she ate lots of lemon jello. Therefore, he was named Lemonjello. Talk about unique baby names. The poor child. I can’t imagine putting a person through that for the rest of their life.
There is a certain amount of joy in finding unique baby names. But, keep in mind that this isn’t something that can easily be changed. You aren’t the one who has to grow up and go through the school years with a name that can be mispronounced and mocked. What’s so horrible about some of the names that used to be so popular in past years that have faded out as time has moved forward?
Another one of my friends is a teacher. She named her two children very common names because she was constantly complaining about looking over her student lists at the beginning of each year and having more and more of a problem pronouncing names and figuring out what gender a particular name is. Why? Because parents are so adamant about finding unique baby names. No one stops to think about the issues that may arise when you are looking for unique baby names. Considering the fact that your child will have to go through his or her entire life with a name that you deemed unique, choose wisely. Perhaps you may want to toss aside the unique baby names books and find something a bit simpler.
I never thought that picking out baby boy names for my son would be so hard. I have a perfectly average name, and I figured that my son could have the same. After all, being named David hasn’t held me back in life. Nonetheless, once my wife and I started talking about baby boy popular names, it became clear that we were going to have a harder time picking one out than we had thought. Usually, we agree with each other, but once we started trying to choose baby boy names, it became clear that we had little or no common ground. I wanted to name him Bill or Jim. She wanted to name him Duke or George. I hated her names, and she thought mine were boring.
Finally, in desperation, we consulted a source of baby boy names online. Doing a baby boy name search is easier than you might think. It is really amazing how many people put good quality free information on the Internet for nothing. Nonetheless, soon we got some sick of pouring through pages and pages of websites. We went out to the store and got a baby naming book, and started to look through. It was one of those ones that tells you the meaning of the name, where it comes from, and some of the people who have had that name. All in all, it was a very useful book, and it gave us both a lot of different ideas.
You might think that that was the end of it. You might assume that we are reasonable people and that, once we had a good source of baby boy names, we would find something to compromise on. If you believe that, however, you are wrong. The baby boy name search got, if anything, more antagonistic after that. We each had dozens of baby boy names that we liked, but the other one hated. To me, it seemed like she was being stubborn and unreasonable. To her, I seemed the same way. The only way we finally resolved it was decided to wait until the baby was born. We figures that, once he was born, we would give him a good looking over and see what name seemed to fit him. After all, for all we knew picking a name ahead of time was a big mistake. What if the baby did not look like it at all?
People nowadays are often in searching between two things which can cause them a conflict someday. They want to be seen as a unique individual, and they do not want to be treated than other people. It seems that people crave standing out and fitting in at the same time. Lately, people have been trying to give their children uniqueness at this point of time. But we should know that there is a good and bad aspect relying on this. In a good light children see they are unique and know that they are an individual because they do not have to learn the concept of sharing the same name as someone else. Due to difficulty of unique names they are often mispronounced and difficult also to spell, so the children tend to have to correct others. Many times people with unusual names are given nicknames so that people can pronounce them, they can also be teased or made fun of because of a strange name.
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